CAUSES AND CONDITIONS

there are times when I can help and times when I cannot help.
I can do..... with how I am causing my own stress, own suffering, Just feeling bad is not going to help anymore. all beings are the owners of there karma their happiness and unhappiness depend on their actions
things come together for a reason, there is not always something to blame,

moral progress is when we stop blaming.all things arise essentially as they have to rise, that they come from the causes and conditions, we have to change the causes and conditions. we change what is causing suffering by changes causes and conditions.
peoples happiness depend on their actions.

Letting someone off the Hook

Is there a way of letting someone off the hook? I was listening to the pocket practice on Tricycle.... Forgivness and compassion.
It brought to my mind the ways that I my self have been feeling. Spurts of sadness, joyless, no laughter, just existence in my life. When the speaker asked the question "How can I let this person off the hook", my first thought was myself.,
how can I let myself off of the hook?
I have learned over the years that there is a cause of dukkha and when I find the cause of the dukkha then there is the cessation of dukkha. If I can not find the problem that is causing the suffering, then there is no solution to stop the suffering in my head.
My views, concepts, ideas of how I should be, or how I should look, or how I should feel are my causes of my suffering.
I have to go back to the beginners mind, see things new and fresh, an open mind.

Today for me is about letting myself of the hook..... Today I will be kind to my husband, today I will be kind to myself, today I will stop and not react, today I will help someone else, instead of constant thoughts of myself. Today I am looking towards a sense of freedom and joy that has left me for some time now due to my views, concepts and ideas of self, people, places and things. I will get out of my hole, my house at this time, and do something today. There is hope for my mind, because of knowing the cause and working towards the cessation of all my suffering.
I am my own worst enemy when left to my thoughts of myself.

Today I have plans to go and be with Zachary's grandma Barbara, she called and asked if I could help her with her medi-cal application for her husband to obtain help with his major medical expenses. The Doroughs are the most kindest loving human beings I have met in my lifetime thus far, they are the definition of giving, Barbara especially, she today even in the midst of all her sufferings, she still thinks of others. I get to be with her today and help hopefully with the task for Leons prescription and hospitalizations for he is now in a skilled nursing facility and most likely will not be coming back home.
My sufferings are minor compared to many people in my life today, I have to remember to be kind and loving to myself.
I love my sitting and being in the moment, in order for me to make some sense of my thoughts or to just let them be thoughts.
I do have a great life in spite of my minds way of thinking.
Today constant thoughts of others is my goal.